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Marriage Counseling - How To Survive An Affair

By Welmar Rodes


When discussing marriages and the challenges faced by couples, it could some times seem as if one is not properly appreciating the gravity of these problems. When a couple assume they are encountering problems that are far too difficult to be resolved, I always like to inquire of them if they are the only ones ever to experience such a challenge.

For a lot of folks, how to survive an affair is not something they think can be learned. It has always been an effective practice to bring them in contact with another couple who went through something like that and came out stronger.

There's no challenge that any couple is facing today that is new. Aside from a new counselor, most counselors would have come across any marriage issues you have to present to them over and again. Marriage counseling can only be effective if the couple involved are ready to make their marriage work.

In many situations, one of the couple almost drags the other for marriage counseling. One person goes with a positive mindset and the other goes only for the sake of it. The forced partner usually sees the whole thing as unnecessary. This is one situation where nothing tangible would be achieved.

Any therapist with experience would know not to continue unless he or she has been able to draw out the forced spouse. This partner has to be involved in the process or else it would seriously be a waste of time.

It is not our desire here to attempt to discuss what causes extra marital affairs. No excuse or reason would ever be enough to okay infidelity. There is no doubt that some situations can be very difficult that there seems to be no alternative. Saying this reminds me of a childless couple I knew a while back. They had gone for tests and nothing was found to be wrong with any of them.

Somehow, the woman had this idea that they were childless because of her husband's inability to perform. She continued blaming the husband for their inability to have children. At the height of it, the man felt he needed to redeem himself so he got a woman outside of his marriage pregnant. Its a great thing that they were able to sort things out and save their marriage. The woman however doesn't have a child yet, but she does not accuse her husband again.

Despite the fact that what we are actually looking at is how to survive and affair, I seriously think it is more important to know how to avoid one. If you can avoid infidelity in your marriage, you would not have to learn how to survive one.

The most important tool I recommend in every marriage is communication. With adequate communication between couples, almost every problem would be taken care of easily. Lack of communication means necessary things are not raised until they pile up and become nearly impossible to talk about without resulting in serious problems.

Ensure that you communicate with your spouse on a really deep level and you would never have a problem too far gone to be handled.




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